We all eventually reach the same conclusion that the Rubik’s Cube is a whole made up of the sum of its parts. I then grab the Rubik’s Cube and ask them what they see. But ultimately it leads us into a conversation about how anger actually is still in the room, even when we can’t see it and it’s not obvious. ![]() Sometimes a client finds this to be an engaging conversation, other times they are confused. Then I will say jokingly, “So! It looks like your anger cube isn’t in the room anymore because I can’t see it! Can you? It must be gone because if it wasn’t, we’d be able to see it, right?” I will then tell them that the thing they just hid is actually their ‘anger cube’. The client will usually follow the instructions, get up, and place it behind a plant, or under the couch or in a drawer. I tell them I am going to watch where they put it, but that they should still hide it and put it out of sight from both of us. In my sessions, I do an exercise where I have my client take the Rubik’s Cube that is on my desk (yes, a Rubik’s Cube, because, it was the closest thing to me when I first experimented with this exercise) and I ask them to hide it somewhere in the room. They’ve been robbed of something whether it’s been their dignity or their privileges, so where is their anger? When I am told about a client’s trauma history or recent experiences of being bullied or humiliated, I look for indications of how their anger shows up in the room, because if I were them, I’d be mad! Humiliation, neglect, abuse – those are all significant reasons to feel angry. For many people, anger can begin as a silent building up of emotions. That’s why people say, ‘it makes your blood boil’ about things that get you upset – because that’s what anger feels like! It feels like a burning sensation under the skin that is strong but hidden from the perspective of outsiders at first. Many people (if not all of us in the right situations) experience anger as a deep internal experience that can’t be detected on the surface at first. Like us if you are enjoying this content.Įver have someone in your life who is incredibly mad, but they won’t say a word about why? Believe it or not, anger is not always displayed as some obvious, loud experience.
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